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Lanette Sweeney's avatar

Hey there -- I found your Substack after reading your interview with Sari Botton. I tried to subscribe but kept getting a "something went wrong" message. I am also a grieving mother (my only son died at age 26) and a (very) reluctant caretaker of my mother with Alzheimer's, so I'm happy to have connected with you. I'd also love to know if you're still looking for essays for your Everyday Grief anthology.

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Cindy Eastman's avatar

First of all, my deep condolences on your great loss. I'm so sorry.

I appreciate your coming over here to take a look. My anthology is already being published (June 3rd) but, I've recently gotten another note about submitting. Maybe a 2nd volume should be considered? I'll be sure to let you know. (I don't know what happened with subscribing--I can add you to the subscriber list if you'd like. You can DM me your email.) xo

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Bill Southern's avatar

Cindy, I took a step last week with my business model - I doubled-down on my commitment to Rule of Three remaining free, but am offering a subscription option, half of which will be directed to a charitable organization of the subscriber's choosing - I'll let you know how it plays out - see details here. . .

https://ruleofthree.substack.com/p/subscribe-now-to-rule-of-three-its

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Cindy Eastman's avatar

I'll check it out! And I'll be very interested in your results. The charitable donation part sounds like a good idea. Thanks for letting me know!

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Sharon Charde's avatar

I hate Mother's Day, just feel like crying the whole day. One son far away in Switzerland, one in the cemetery I just visited. I'll be very glad to wake up tomorrow morning to an ordinary day.

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Cindy Eastman's avatar

I had kids and grandkids at my house for a bit, but once they left I crashed. Sending lots of love to you, Sharon. xo

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Yasmin Chopin's avatar

The date is earlier in the calendar in the UK than in the USA - it's been and gone.

My own mum died fifteen years ago but I have fond memories of celebrating Mothers' Day with her. As a mum myself, it's always a nice opportunity to spend some time with family. We don't go mad, just a card, some flowers and maybe lunch together. A chance to appreciate each other never goes amiss.

But, as you rightly point out, Cindy, it changes over time.

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Cindy Eastman's avatar

I'm sorry about your mum, Yasmin. I think not going mad is a good way to spend the day...which we did. Cards, snacks and some bubbly. Because we always have bubbly. :)

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Yasmin Chopin's avatar

Bubbly is good.

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Gabi Coatsworth's avatar

I think the companies offering not to send Mothers Day reminders are doing it so as not to upset people who’ve lost their mothers. I think it’s well-intentioned…

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Cindy Eastman's avatar

I think you're right about the well-intentioned part--it just seems a bit like more promotion--"see how sensitive we are? Wanna buy some stuff now??" ;)

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Lynn Stobaeus's avatar

🩵🙏😘

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Heidi Durig Heiby's avatar

This is my first without my mother and I’m spending the weekend cleaning out my childhood home to sell. So it’s a little tough, but I’m mostly grateful for all of the ememories

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Heidi Durig Heiby's avatar

Sorry that got messed up. I’m grateful for all the memories and that I had a wonderful mother. And I have a daughter. It will be different this year. Just how it goes! Sending hugs to you, Cindy.

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Cindy Eastman's avatar

Cleaning out the home sounds like a tough job--especially on Mother's Day. But as you say, there are probably lots of wonderful memories stored there, too. xo

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