I’m not talking about the setback card game my dad fondly recalled as playing with other couples over fifty years ago and talked about all the time after he arrived here in Connecticut. And signs advertising setback groups to join which I now see posted when I drive through the neighboring small towns on my way somewhere else. No, this setback is the latest in what a monstrous universe apparently thinks I am still able to take more of and my somewhere else’s are typically doctor’s appointments.
I have to say that words are so helpful when dealing with trauma and the loss of life. And you will touch someone in a way you probably would not expect. I watched a video of Billy Bob Thornton over and over again these past 16 months after my younger sister died unexpectedly, that left her children now with me. They were/are a constant reminder of her and it tore me apart at times, I would run to the bathroom and hide my tears from them. I didn't want them to think they had to stop talking about her or feel bad talking about her. Every time I was feeling like I couldn't catch my breath I would watch it. And it helped so much and still does.
Cindy, Cindy, Sharing a feeling, especially across pain, is never “tiny.“. For me, as for you, this sharing is what life is all about, what gives it meaning. You have created this community, this caring community and it is of value to all of us as well as you. You have another blow to contend with, and I’m so sorry for that. And so sorry for all that you and your family are going through.. But stay with us. We are with you and love you and welcome your sharing.
Oh yes oh yes, keep writing, Cindy. We need all of it, of you, of your ignited, always burning flame of love and compassion, of the desire to do good in the world. We need it now, more than ever!
Oof. So sorry, Cindy. Never a dull f-ing minute. All good thoughts for your surgery and recovery. And keep writing—which goes without saying! And sharing too.
Keep writing even if it’s about pain everyone needs to know how others get through it. I love the pic of your dad it brings back a lot of memories. Usually someone becomes the caregiver in the family. I’m the one in mine so reading about your role helps me. I don’t feel so alone in my our pain. Sending lots of prayers and positive energy to you.
Your reflections and your beautiful words in the face of absolutely everything definitely help all of us while it's helping you. Win-win. Keep writing. We'll keep reading and praying with you. Will be thinking of you and hoping for quick and perfect recovery from the surgery.
I love reading everything you write. It makes me more human, more aware of and responsive to others' struggles. It helps me know I'm not alone in my grief, that we're all walking this path of life together. You remind me to remain graceful and kind throughout the journey. <3
Going through cancer with my mother, with whom I’ve had a strained relationship my whole life. Reading your posts helps me remember we are all humans on our own path, and it’s an honor to walk alongside those we love for as long as the Universe sees fit. Thank you for letting us walk alongside you.
Your words matter! You make the world better every time you share. Your journey helps people see they’re not alone. This is huge. I’m so lucky to know you, Cindy!❤️❤️❤️
I agree with all the comments here. I look forward to your posts and am cheering you on. We all deal with stuff, and you write about it with such grace and honesty and love. It makes us better for it. Good luck with your surgery. Wishing you a quick recovery and healing!
Cindy, keep sharing - I wish you well in your next challenge.
I have to say that words are so helpful when dealing with trauma and the loss of life. And you will touch someone in a way you probably would not expect. I watched a video of Billy Bob Thornton over and over again these past 16 months after my younger sister died unexpectedly, that left her children now with me. They were/are a constant reminder of her and it tore me apart at times, I would run to the bathroom and hide my tears from them. I didn't want them to think they had to stop talking about her or feel bad talking about her. Every time I was feeling like I couldn't catch my breath I would watch it. And it helped so much and still does.
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/K3tASDgm390
Cindy, Cindy, Sharing a feeling, especially across pain, is never “tiny.“. For me, as for you, this sharing is what life is all about, what gives it meaning. You have created this community, this caring community and it is of value to all of us as well as you. You have another blow to contend with, and I’m so sorry for that. And so sorry for all that you and your family are going through.. But stay with us. We are with you and love you and welcome your sharing.
Oh yes oh yes, keep writing, Cindy. We need all of it, of you, of your ignited, always burning flame of love and compassion, of the desire to do good in the world. We need it now, more than ever!
Oof. So sorry, Cindy. Never a dull f-ing minute. All good thoughts for your surgery and recovery. And keep writing—which goes without saying! And sharing too.
Keep writing even if it’s about pain everyone needs to know how others get through it. I love the pic of your dad it brings back a lot of memories. Usually someone becomes the caregiver in the family. I’m the one in mine so reading about your role helps me. I don’t feel so alone in my our pain. Sending lots of prayers and positive energy to you.
With you every step of the way!! XXOO
Your reflections and your beautiful words in the face of absolutely everything definitely help all of us while it's helping you. Win-win. Keep writing. We'll keep reading and praying with you. Will be thinking of you and hoping for quick and perfect recovery from the surgery.
I love reading everything you write. It makes me more human, more aware of and responsive to others' struggles. It helps me know I'm not alone in my grief, that we're all walking this path of life together. You remind me to remain graceful and kind throughout the journey. <3
Going through cancer with my mother, with whom I’ve had a strained relationship my whole life. Reading your posts helps me remember we are all humans on our own path, and it’s an honor to walk alongside those we love for as long as the Universe sees fit. Thank you for letting us walk alongside you.
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Your writing is so pure and honest and I think you’re amazing for pushing through with such grace.
It definitely is a way forward, but it's still shitty. Love you, Cindy. Praying for you. thinking of you. Keep up the good fight.
Your words matter! You make the world better every time you share. Your journey helps people see they’re not alone. This is huge. I’m so lucky to know you, Cindy!❤️❤️❤️
You writing is so genuine, so touching. I hate that you are going through all this but I am always glad to hear your voice.
I agree with all the comments here. I look forward to your posts and am cheering you on. We all deal with stuff, and you write about it with such grace and honesty and love. It makes us better for it. Good luck with your surgery. Wishing you a quick recovery and healing!