As the story goes, my mother’s mother—Nana— (pronounced like the dog in Peter Pan and not the American version of Nonna) was the creator of the phrase and concept: Check your motives. As long as I can remember, this has been one of my guiding mantras to make sure that the decision or action on which I am about to embark was made with the purest of intentions; no manipulation, no self-interest, no defensiveness. In fact, there have been times I’ve prided myself on “doing the right thing” since I had such a stellar and foolproof method to keep me from being say, an asshole.
What a stimulating and provocative musing… It sure does get tricky! If you factor in that we’re all working with a false belief we have a valid blueprint that we’re all supposed to follow it gets even trickier. My motives may be the best but I’m not reading the same blueprint others are. I find it easier when I can accept that we’re co-creating our experiences and what actually happens is the only true blueprint. Not mine alone. Or anyone else’s either.
Check your motives... wow. Your Nana knew some stuff about human nature. If only more people were as self aware. I have been on a similar quest for self mastery. I try to discern if my words/ actions are coming from a place of fear or a place of love. Problem is, as you said, you're the one making this call! And sometimes it's not entirely clear. Cheers to those who are actually trying to figure this out.
“Check your motives” is a good one. At Rule of Three, our Rule No. 2 is, “Don’t be a douchebag,” but yours is good too.
No you are not insane. That was really interesting to read. Loved it!
What a stimulating and provocative musing… It sure does get tricky! If you factor in that we’re all working with a false belief we have a valid blueprint that we’re all supposed to follow it gets even trickier. My motives may be the best but I’m not reading the same blueprint others are. I find it easier when I can accept that we’re co-creating our experiences and what actually happens is the only true blueprint. Not mine alone. Or anyone else’s either.
Tricky one. The road to hell is paved with good intentions - it's a cliche because it's true...
Check your motives... wow. Your Nana knew some stuff about human nature. If only more people were as self aware. I have been on a similar quest for self mastery. I try to discern if my words/ actions are coming from a place of fear or a place of love. Problem is, as you said, you're the one making this call! And sometimes it's not entirely clear. Cheers to those who are actually trying to figure this out.